Our Kids are Allowed to Feel Their Feelings

Do you ever just have one of those crappy days where you’re just not feeling it and the people around you can tell by the look on your face that maybe they should stay far, far away from you or bring you some carbs and fuzzy socks?  
 
As adults, we’re allowed to have those days. 
 
We know that no one feels happy and energetic all the time and we don’t expect them to. 
 
Hopefully the people in your life support you well when you’re feeling blue or angry or anxious. 
 
Think about what helps you feel supported when you’re having big emotions.  
 
It’s likely that you just want someone to listen to you without judgement or without trying to fix you. 
 
You might want the presence of a comforting person you love…or you might need some space. 
 
Our kids are the same way. 
 
Oftentimes we don’t allow them to have crappy days or moments to feel angry or upset. 
 
This might be because we’re still learning that it’s ok to have our own emotions and we’re afraid we won’t know what to do to help them. 
 
So, we try to shut it down and don’t give them space to feel. 
 
Can you imagine what it would feel like if someone did this to you when you were feeling sad or angry or worried? 
 
We must allow our kids to feel their feelings. 
 
We can hold space for them by being present, listening, and not judging.  
 
It’s really that simple. 
 
Support your kids the way you would want to be supported. 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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